9 Exciting Signs That You Have Found Your True Soulmate


“Our souls speak a language that is beyond human understanding. A connection so rare the universe won’t let us part.” – Nikki Rowe.

I was so glad to discover the school of thought that a soulmate is not necessarily only your life partner.

Soul connections are always special.

Soul connections are profound in ways that are beyond physical attraction or someone’s charm. One cannot be told what such a connection is, it has to be experienced to be truly understood.

It can be your friend, your parent, your sibling, a stranger with whom you meet and connect so intently that it feels like the stars align perfectly whenever you interact.

People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.

A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.

That’s an excerpt from Elizabeth Gilbert’s book Eat Pray Love that I have enjoyed reading over the past couple of days. It got me reflecting about the different soulmates I have had the joy of experiencing over my lifetime.

Have you been lucky enough to find your true soulmate in life? Please let me know in the comments section.

What is the purpose of a soulmate?

A soul mate’s purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master.

I feel that my sister is one of my true soulmates. Our relationship goes well beyond being just sisters. She is the yin to my yang and makes me feel complete and whole.

So, maybe your soulmate is someone you already know and have felt the soulmate kind of connection with. Or maybe it is someone you are yet to meet but you will somehow know you’ve met because of the way they set your soul alight with happiness and joy.

How will you know?

Here are 7 exciting signs that you have found your true soulmate

1. They make you feel complete and whole

“You make me feel like I am everywhere, when I am right here, completely still with you.” — Crystal Woods

You can be whole and complete without entering a relationship. However, with your soulmate, you feel whole and complete within your relationship — whether it is platonic or romantic.

The Greek Philosopher Epicurus was an ancient philosopher and sage who founded Epicureanism, a highly influential school of philosophy. He was born on the Greek island of Samos to Athenian parents.

He contended that the most important thing in life was good friends. They were much more important than material success. Foster good friends above all else and if you wish you can even marry one of them.

With your true soulmate, you will not feel like you have to keep up appearances or pretend to be someone you are not just to keep the relationship thriving. With your true soulmate, you feel content to be the authentic you.

Your true soulmate will make you feel complete and whole.

2. They support your dreams and ambitions

“Surround yourself with people who believe in your dreams, encourage your ideas, support your ambitions, and bring out the best in you.”― Roy T. Bennett

I recall my fear of judgement and how I kept talking myself out of starting my podcast. I wanted to use my voice to raise awareness for mental wellness but thought nobody would want to listen in.

Alicendagire is one of my true soulmates for the selfless way in which she supports my dreams and ambitions. She encouraged me to start it, and 14 partnerships as a result later, I still feel indebted to her.

Most people you will encounter have dreams, ambitions, goals or desires.

They want to do better, be better and achieve more. How they get to this point is what stops them from achieving their dreams. Quite often they will need help along the way and may not know where to turn or who to speak to in order to get this help.

When you find your true soulmate, they will support you in your quest for whatever dreams and ambitions you may have.

Les Brown said, “Help others achieve their dreams and you will achieve yours.”

When you find your true soulmate, this is very true. They find fulfilment in you pursuing your own dreams and advancing yourself. They, too, feel accomplished when you win. They are instrumental in your process and that makes your success their success too!

Your true soulmate will support your dreams and ambitions.

3. They bring out the best in you

“My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me.” — Henry Ford

To bring out the best in someone is to create the circumstances where someone exhibits his or her best qualities, which are usually strength, kindness, patience, or courage.

Nobody does this better than a true soulmate!

The best in anyone are qualities that are already in the person, but they are not always seen and need to be brought out of the individual.

Generally speaking, in life, you will realize there is a role for everyone you meet. Some people will test you, some will use you, some will love you, and some will teach you. But the ones who are truly important are the ones who bring out the best in you. They are the rare and amazing people who remind you why it’s worth it.

Your true soulmate will bring out the best in you.

4. You have a deep connection with them

“Maybe it’s not about the length of time you’ve known someone; maybe it’s about instant recognition on an unconscious level. Our souls know each other.” — S. E. Hall

When you meet your true soulmate, you feel a strong connection with them, unlike other relationships. You sense a bigger purpose in your union.

You feel as if the Universe is bringing you two together to achieve something great, something beyond the capabilities of the two individuals involved.

Unfortunately, sometimes true soulmates eventually part ways.

Even when at the beginning of the relationship, they felt that strong connection to each other.

They find that as time goes on and as the purpose of the union is served, for example life problems resolved or hidden talents revealed, the intensity and passion in the relationship shrink and fade away.

Ultimately this may lead to parting ways.

It does not change the fact that this might have been one of your true soulmates. You knew them with your soul despite having interacted for a limited amount of time.

You will experience a deep connection with your true soulmate.

5. Their presence fills your heart with joy

“If we’d never met, I think I would have known my life wasn’t complete. And I would have wandered the world in search of you, even if I didn’t know who I was looking for.”― Nicholas Sparks

Your true soulmate’s presence fills your heart with joy.

Even for your first encounter, although you are connecting with someone you barely know, you feel as if you have known them for a long time. You feel an instant and irresistible attraction to the person.

You enjoy a rapport and experience a joy so deep with this person that is beyond comprehension, irrespective of whether the relationship is romantic or otherwise.

It is as if you knew each other in your previous lives and are now just carrying on with the connection.

Your true soulmate’s presence fills your heart with joy.

6. You agree about the important things

“A soulmate is someone whose way of viewing life is not necessarily the same as yours but complements yours. There is not a compromise, there is a compliment.” – Paul Robear.

I have some really good news when it comes to the state of your relationship with your true soulmate — you do not have to agree on everything. As long as you have the cornerstones of a healthy relationship like honesty and openness, then you can pretty much relax when it comes to everything else.

However, when it comes to the important things, you will usually find yourselves in agreement.
When it comes to the foundational issues of life or relationships, you and your true soulmate find yourselves talking about it and trying to find an understanding. On the not so important things, you find that it is okay to meet halfway.

With your true soulmate, you will agree about the important things.

7. You just know it

“A soulmate is someone whom, when you meet, without thinking, without letting your neocortex play into the decision; you feel an instant familiarity, a sense of connection, a longing.” – Karen Salmansohn.

With your true soulmate, there are no words to fully describe how it happens, but you are just in tune with each other. This person is your true soulmate.

You just know it!

Even at the beginning of the relationship, you both just feel comfortable around each other. Like you really know each other. Even if you just met.

This can also be described as feeling like you are on the same page or the same wavelength.

It is as if you can sense the needs, wants, and preferences of the other person without spelling it out.

A connection of the souls.

In fact, that is exactly the essence of a soulmate relationship!

With your true soulmate, you will just know it.

8. They accept you for who you are

“The soul mate doesn’t have to be a romantic relationship. Sometimes in life, you meet people when you need them, and there is an immediate connection.” ― Alison G. Bailey

The best part about meeting your true soulmate is that between the two of you, there is no judgment involved.

You are accepted for who you are.

This allows you the freedom to be yourself without bothering about the reaction of the other person. In fact, the presence of the other person calms you down and all those negative thoughts and feelings just vanish.

Your true soulmate will accept you for who you truly are.

9. They love you

“I love you neither with my heart nor with my mind. Just in case the heart might stop, the mind can forget. I love you with my soul. Soul never stops or forgets.” — Rumi.

When someone loves you, you can tell by the way that they treat you.

Your true soulmate will love you, whether it is platonic or romantic, your true soulmate loves you.

They make you feel secure and safe. Every day you spend with that person is like an adventure into their soul. You discover that love is in the heart because you love them even when you do not see them.

Your true soulmate will love you.

“I used to believe in one true soul mate, but not anymore. I believe you can have a few.” — Paul Walker.

I have also had a few true soulmates in life so far, and continue to discover more as life unfolds — both platonic and romantic.

PS: It is not cliché to say when you encounter your true soulmate, you will know. You really will know. Trust the process.

Wishing you loads and loads of love in your platonic and romantic relationships.

May you find your true soulmates in your journey of life!

And now your thoughts…

Have you found any of your true soulmates yet? Are they still in your life?

Did this article bring a particular person to mind? (With every sentence I wrote, it brought a couple of people to mind, but my partner was top of the list and checks all the boxes?)

Do you think everyone is lucky enough to meet their soulmates in life or do we sometimes miss them?

Please let me know in the comments section.

This post was previously published on medium.com.


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